Book by UO psychologists explores betrayal

A pair of University of Oregon psychologists' new book about deceit and the deep-seated reasons people cover it up hit bookstands earlier this month.

"Blind to Betrayal," by Jennifer Freyd and Pamela Birrell, presents case studies of unfaithful spouses, abuse by powerful authority figures and corrupt institutions. It addresses coming to grips with betrayal and how doing so helps victims move on.

Freyd is an expert on betrayal and child abuse, and Birrell is a licensed clinical psychologist and senior instructor in the UO Department of Psychology. Their 224-page book was published by John Wiley & Sons.

In recent years, the world's media have been filled with stories of betrayal, including sexual abuse of young boys by priests and by an assistant football coach at one of the nation's most-respected college football programs. Freyd often is among psychologists asked by the media to try to help people understand the underlying complexities.

"Everyone is touched by betrayal," said Freyd, currently the editor of the Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, in an interview. "Betrayal can happen in close personal relationships and in larger social contexts, such as the workplace. If we reflect on our own lives, we realize we have all experienced betrayal.

"Do we turn a blind eye or do we confront it?"

In the book's opening chapter, Freyd and Birrell present the case history of a married woman who was betrayed by her unfaithful husband. As the chapter closes, the reader is told: "On discovery of betrayal, a key response is to reorganize one's perceptions of what has happened -- to rewrite history. Betrayal therefore has a fundamental impact on one's perceptions of reality."

A paragraph later, the authors address the issue head on: "And yet, although betrayal is so common and insidious, very little has been written about it in the psychological literature. Psychology as a discipline may suffer from betrayal blindness. Part of the problem stems from a tendency in clinical psychology and psychiatry to focus on individuals and individual symptoms. As a result, the relations between people -- betrayal and its blindness -- are not seen."

For many people, Freyd said, the first betrayals often are experienced in early childhood where there is little option to confront the full reality.

"In fact, it usually is safer for children to be blind to betrayal when it comes from the hands of a caregiver or someone the child trusts," she said. "In that situation, seeing the betrayal would likely only make matters worse – because a natural response to seeing betrayal is to confront it in some way. If a child confronts a betraying caregiver his or her situation is likely to become worse, even threatening survival."

Blindness to betrayal is a survival response, she said, but there is a high price for not seeing the betrayal for what it is. "It keeps us from being fully strong, alive or healthy," she said. "It makes us vulnerable to more betrayal makes it difficult to have truly intimate relationships."

"Blind to Betrayal" tackles the "why" behind the blindness, details its toxicity and extensively explores the healing power of coming to grips with betrayals that occur. The book has garnered praise from early reviewers.

- by Jim Barlow, UO Office of Strategic Communications